Three months ago, I lost a friend. A wonderful, caring, amazingly funny and supportive friend. Not only was he a friend, but a cowoker. No only was he a coworker but a life saver. Everyday, I would walk into The Reflector office and have a chat with the wonderful Adam Kazery.
Adam and I have been friends for about 2 years, but great friends for a little over a year. But Monday, February 22, my world was turned upside down. I have yet to post something about Adam for the loss of words that I have been experiencing since the day he passed away. But today, after I read through the text messages Adam sent me one more time, I realized that I am finally coming to peace with Adam being gone. I think about him everyday, but yesterday, I didn’t cry when I thought of him. I thought about the fun he must be having in Heaven. I am sure he has his own piano and he probably plays it everyday. I sometimes wonder if he is watching me. I wonder if he sees how much we cared for him, because we cared for him a lot.
Adam had a caring spirit and the ability to make anyone laugh. I have some of the best stories about Adam ever. When we would ride through the office on a Maroon bike or when he wore a cupcake ring to Abner’s just to make the lady at the drive thru window laugh, which he did. Or when he played the piano at the Delta Gamma house and made me run down the street after he took off with my car. He would hide things on my desk and leave me notes just to make me smile when I had a bad day. The entertainment was always there. My last text message conversation with him will make me laugh for the rest of my life. He was brilliant.
When sitting in Bryant Park in NYC today, my first thought was that Adam would have loved it. But I started thinking and decided it was time to tell the world (or the piece of the world that will read this) about my feelings toward friendship: If you care about someone, you are a friend. Friendship is something that should be cherished, because you never know when you may lose that friend. Don’t take your friends for granted, for one day, they will realize you aren’t a real friend after all.
I will do anything for my friends. My friends are the most important thing to me in my life, and my family. I worry about my friends more than anything. If I don’t hear from someone in a few days, I panic. If someone hurts my feelings, I forgive them. But I always remember, that no matter what, I want my friends to be there for me, too. I have some of the best friends in the entire world that I know would drop everything they are doing if I needed something, and it makes me happy. I stress about the possibility of losing another friend, but I am always thankful for the time I do get to spend with someone.
I miss Adam like none other, but I will always remember the times I had with him. Don’t forget that we are not invincible, because we aren’t. Don’t take your friends for granted. Cherish all the times you get to spend with them, because you never know when you will lose them. Don’t go to sleep mad at a friend. Don’t fight over stupid things. Don’t forget to tell your friends how you feel, because you may never get the chance. I wish I could have told Adam that he was one of my best friends, but I never got the chance. Be there for your friends and the people you care for, because sometimes, it might just make the biggest difference in the world. Until next time.
Please check out Aubra Whitten’s tribute to Adam on her blog: Aubra Whitten.
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This motivates me to write my own tribute sometime soon. Thanks for posting. Be sure to send this link to the Kazerys. They’d love to read it.
April, these words come at a special time for me. My family is picking up the pieces of a shattered world. Why this had to happen, I don’t know. Your love and kindness toward Adam shines through, and I know he felt the same about you.
I admire someone who can express their inner feelings as eloquently as you. Because my tears, while reading this, were not so sad as before but very close to tears of joy. Know that we cannot thank you enough for this jewel in print. I intend to share it with friends and family and cherish it always.
Love and thanks,
Eyd Kazery
Mr. Kazery,
Adam was a wonderful person who is truly missed by many. You family has been so helpful to all of us at The Reflector during this time of grieving. I hope we are able to comfort you and your family the way you have for us. If there is anything we can do for you, please know we are more than willing. Adam will forever remain in my heart and memories. He was an amazing friend, I could not have asked for more. You and Mrs. Kazery raised an outstanding young man, you should be proud. May you, Mrs. Kazery, Christen and Josh continue to pick up the pieces, and remember, I (and the entire Reflector family) think about Adam and your family daily and cherish the time we were able to spend with him. I am so lucky to be able to say we were friends. Please call upon us if there is anything we can do.
April
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